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Hiding in plain sight

Michael David C. Tan interviews transgender men on going stealth, which is – simplistically put – “hiding in plain sight”. Criticized by many for the act’s effect on LGBTQIA Pride, it is but a way to survive for some who do it, just as for some, it is “but a stage where you are still preparing not only yourself, but also those people around you who you know may have a hard time accepting the real you.”

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Even if it was only an email interview (through transman Nick Fernandez), John* was still apprehensive. “I am a stealth transsexual man,” he said, “and I don’t want my cover to be blown.”

After some persuasion, he agreed to be interviewed, though “I won’t provide a picture; I will (just) answer the (emailed) questions.”

John knew and started to understand how trans people feel in his first year in college. Back then, he didn’t have a support group, and so “it was hard.”

Aware of the implications on Pride (with a capital “P”) of going stealth – i.e. that this is another version of “passing” (that is, acting as a member of the oppressing class), and that it further stigmatizes members of the LGBTQIA community because some members do not take pride in that community – going stealth was still a no-brainer because of the world’s continuing confusion with trans identity.

“The public already sees me as a male and calls me by my preferred name,” John says. For him, therefore, there is no need to “create confusion”.

John pays a lot of attention on the issue of “confusion”. “It will be beneficial to the (trans) community if the anti-discrimination law will be approved, and if they grant us the right to change our names and gender in all our documents for us transsexual and transgender people to avoid confusion. When I say confusion, this is based from my own experience, since – as mentioned – the public already sees me as a male and calls me by my preferred name. So wouldn’t it be better if what they see and how they refer to me will also be reflected in my documents? I find it more appropriate that way. It shows respect for us… and acceptance of us,” he said.

It is worth noting that going stealth varies for different people. For instance, for some, it is only to family members; while for others, it is to workmates; and still for others, to the world at large.

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STEALTH LIVING

John is not the only one opting to go stealth, obviously.

James Roque*, who was interviewed by Sass Rogando Sasot for Outrage Magazine in 2009, found it hard to explain to other people about being transgender, and was particularly wary of “judgmental people”. And – after deciding that “I will definitely NOT survive living in the wrong body and being called the wrong pronouns for the rest of my life” – he decided to “hide” in plain sight.

There’s Joaquin* (also interviewed via Fernandez), who was emphatic when he said that, while he’d also agree to be interviewed, “I am a stealth transsexual man, which means I cannot and will not allow the magazine to publish my identity.”

Kin Mahinay – who willingly agreed to be interviewed for this article – decided to go stealth since he started taking hormones.

“I decided to go stealth because of (several) reasons… My siblings are all girls, and I was assigned female at birth, so my mom really had a hard time accepting my real identity. It came to a point that my father beat me, punched me (all over), and my mother wanted me to leave home when I told them that I like girls,” Kin said.

And so “I am stealth to my family, but I’m out (as trans) to my friends and schoolmates. Some of them hide the fact that I was assigned female at birth. They tell people that I am really a man.”

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Yet another interviewee, Red*, started going stealth when he moved to Sydney, Australia.

“Once I boarded that plane from Brisbane (the first time I was here), I decided: ‘This is it.’,” he said.

For Red, “the decision wasn’t light… it wasn’t easy because I’ve always been out when I was in the Philippines. I’ve always been active when we were starting (a trans organization).”

“When I went here, what I really wanted was less drama, less questions. And so when I learned that the society here is more accepting, more okay with trans people (that is, not making too much of it), so I thought, well…”

With this decision, for Red, there are (again) less dramas, less issues, so that he can just “live.”

BEING OUT

Outside their trans circles, staying not known is a goal for those who go stealth.

“I don’t intend to be famous or my name to be known by others,” John said.

Even now that many know of him because of his works related to trans education, John intends to remain stealth. “I just want to impart my knowledge, experiences and service as much as I can. As long as my efforts and my service to the LGBTQIA community, especially to my trans brothers, are appreciated, I will die a happy man,” he said.

In Red’s case, “out of all the people in Australia, there are only four people who know who I am, and what I was.” These include a friend from the Philippines, a classmate from the Philippines (with whom Red said he never had to explain his situation), and a woman who accidentally discovered about Red’s situation. With the latter, Red had to ask if it’s “alright if we just kept this to ourselves,” and fortunately for Red, the woman had a transgender cousin, so she understood this request.

Yet another person who knows is Red’s current girlfriend. “We started out as friends, and she never knew. And through the course of everything, I made her a video of me (telling) my story. I couldn’t get myself to explain it face to face,” he said. They’re still together.

Red, nonetheless, said that “I do intend to come out.”

Kin – for his side – wants to, eventually, come out. “I would like to be able to do that. In time. When I can prove myself to them that even if I’m a transgender, I can excel at work, and help them to raise my siblings,” he said. “I know that (when that time comes), they will still accept me after they know about my transition. But not know since I’m just starting to build my career.”

Kin is very cautious with being out to people, though.

“Some people,” he said, “enjoy outing me in public.”

And so “I find it hard to trust others, even if they are your friends or even the closest friends. There are still many who can’t accept and support you in what you are going through. It is much safer when you just keep silent, and let the questions run out of their heads without answering them. It is not my job to force them to listen, or ask for their acceptance anyway.”

DEALING WITH ‘PRIDE’

By going stealth, Kin does not believe that he is necessarily ashamed of being part of the LGBTQIA community. “In fact, I show my support by attending and joining LGBTQIA events,” he said, adding that, “anyway, I don’t intend to stay stealth for a long time. I’m just waiting for the right time to get out in public… when we’re all ready.”

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The decision to go stealth was particularly hard for Red since, as he said, “I had a voice in the Philippines, but not here in Australia just yet.”

Red added: “When I decided to go stealth, it wasn’t because I wasn’t proud (of being part of the LGBTQIA community). People I know would say, ‘Red is one of those people who go out of their way to explain these kinds of things.’ But my going stealth is not to shame to community I’m part of. It was a very hard decision (to make). I envy those who have the balls to just go out there and be themselves. My decision to go stealth was because I don’t want drama –there’s too much drama back home, back in the Philippines; too many bashing; too many questions. And I don’t want to deal with that here because my support system here isn’t that great.”

FACING CHALLENGES

For Kin, by going stealth, “the only challenge I’m seeing is being afraid of being found out. What if someone outed me to my parents? I don’t know what to say to them if they find out. I am also afraid of what they will say to me; on how they will react, and if they will still accept me after they know that I’m a transgender.”

Red said that “there are a lot of challenges (going stealth). No one can see your photo ID. No one can see your details. You can’t just blurt it out. You can’t just have evidence lying around. Another challenge is my participation in an organization. I can’t be as open as I would want to be. Not because I don’t want to, but because it might compromise my being stealth here in Australia. So there are a lot of sacrifices,” he said.

The limitations break Red’s heart because, now, he is unable to help in pushing for the rights of LGBTQIA people. “But this is what needs to be done,” he said.

LACK OF UNDERSTANDING

A key issue is the pervasive lack of understanding of transgenderism, even within the LGBTQIA community.

John, for one, is constantly bugged that, even within the LGBTQIA community, “there remains a lack of knowledge about the different people (falling under the umbrella LGBTQIA acronym). This is especially true to us transsexuals and transgenders.”

And yet it is in solidarity with members of the LGBTQIA community (i.e. trans community) that belongingness is found.

In 2011, “I started joining the PinoyFTM, and I became concerned and more aware about the situation of the LGBT community,” John said. This is because, for him, there continue to be numerous issues within the LGBTQIA community.

Joaquin himself is aware that it is “only right that we educate others (about trans issues).” That is, of course, even if he chooses to be an “invisible” educator of sort.

“I never consider myself as an LGBT advocate,” he said. “I am just doing what I know is the right thing to do.”

For Joaquin, “what got me into LGBT issues is, perhaps, myself. Three years ago, I was in a bad place. To add to that, not being able to find a lot of materials for and about the transgender community in the Philippines was extremely frustrating. So I took it upon myself to produce the needed resources and tools for the transgender community.”

Like John, Joaquin is thankful that “PinoyFTM gave me the opportunity to (be of help).” He continues to be inspired by those “who are fighting for our freedom, equality and rights because I also want what they are fighting for.”

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FOCUS NEEDED

For the interviewees, there remain key issues that the LGBT community as a whole should focus on.

Foremost is the lack of legal protection for LGBTQIA people, considering how the anti-discrimination bill continues to languish in both Houses of Congress.

Joaquin is also wary of “the fact that discrimination within the community exists, and it is really disappointing. Of all people, why would we submit ourselves to that kind of treatment? We should be the ones promoting equality, not destroying the concept of it. As someone who experienced discrimination within the community, I would want for us to address this issue,” Joaquin said.

Not surprisingly, this may be because “a large number of people in the community remain largely unaware of basic LGBTQIA terms and concepts which can be very problematic when reaching out to them.”

“I am a very private man and I value my stealth status pretty well. But seeing the men and women who risk everything just to come out in public to fight for and represent the community inspires me to help in my own way,” Joaquin said. “It takes an incredible amount of courage to come out and speak on behalf of the community. I will always have a high regard for them.”

Joaquin eyes to “establish a career in the government to know more about how things go on down there. After that, I plan to take up law and hopefully pass the bar examinations. I wish to be a civil rights lawyer someday since our country is literally bereft of any laws favoring the LGBTQIA community. I think this is probably the best way to give back to the community, which has helped me in more ways than I can imagine,” he said.

Red has three messages to other transmen.

“(At one point in our lives, we) were all at a crossroad, and all we had to do was turn left or right. So whatever decision that you make, make sure that you know what you’re getting into,” he said. “At times, we don’t. But in the end, remember that it is your life – and no matter the number of people pushing you to go this way or that, remember it’s only you who will be there at the end.”

Secondly, “strive. Never stop inspiring people and being inspired by people. You don’t have to be a celebrity to inspire people… So never stop.”

And lastly, “love yourself. Embrace yourself. Embrace the fact of who you are. Some people may not… agree with it, but be good to yourself. Love yourself, and everything starts from there.”

In the end, for Kin, “being stealth is not something to be ashamed of. It does not mean you are ashamed of who you are, too. Sometimes, it is but a stage where you are still preparing not only yourself, but also those people around you who you know may have a hard time accepting the real you. It will need all the guts, time and patience (to be out). At first, it will be really hard; but sooner, the time will come when everyone can accept who you are. Stay strong. Just live life to the fullest,” Kin ended.

*NAMES CHANGED AS REQUESTED BY INTERVIEWEES TO PROTECT THEIR PRIVACY

The founder of Outrage Magazine, Michael David dela Cruz Tan is a graduate of Bachelor of Arts (Communication Studies) of the University of Newcastle in New South Wales, Australia. Though he grew up in Mindanao (particularly Kidapawan and Cotabato City in Maguindanao), even attending Roman Catholic schools there, he "really, really came out in Sydney," he says, so that "I sort of know what it's like to be gay in a developing and a developed world". Mick can: photograph, do artworks with mixed media, write (DUH!), shoot flicks, community organize, facilitate, lecture, research (with pioneering studies under his belt)... this one's a multi-tasker, who is even conversant in Filipino Sign Language (FSL). Among others, Mick received the Catholic Mass Media Awards (CMMA) in 2006 for Best Investigative Journalism. Cross his path is the dare (read: It won't be boring).

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What it’s like to be trans in Taiwan

Tamsin Wu visits gay-friendly Taiwan, where she meets Abbygail Wu, founder of Intersex, Transgender and Transsexual People Care Association (ISTSCare), who said that the country is still failing its LGBTQ citizens, and particularly lags in promoting trans rights.

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Taiwan may be the most gay-friendly country in Asia, but according to Abbygail Wu, founder of Intersex, Transgender and Transsexual People Care Association (ISTSCare), the country still receives a “failing mark” when it comes to LGBTQ equality. Transgender people, in particular, usually bear the brunt of sex-based discrimination.

ISTSCare has a one-woman 24/7 hotline service. Abby has dealt with calls concerning struggles related to suicide attempts, job insecurity or homelessness, and even domestic violence. To provide support and assistance to hotline callers, ISTSCare also partners with NGOs and other LGBTQ-related organizations.

Aside from the hotline service, the organization does its advocacy work through protests, by maintaining an online presence, as well as directly communicating with political figures and trans-friendly journalists to rouse awareness and discussion on transgender and intersex issues.

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In 2014, four years after the first official notice regarding gender reassignment procedures in Taiwan was issued, the Ministry of Interior (MOI), with the support of the Ministry of Health and Welfare (MOHW), announced the easement of legal requirements on changing gender identity. MOI promised that it would immediately work on letting transgender citizens change their gender marker without having to go through rigorous psychiatric assessments, sex reassignment surgery (SRS) and parental approval. However, MOI backtracked since then.

“MOI, which is handling the national ID cards, they said there are still a lot of research to do about the gender issue and they try to get some professional opinions, but MOHW already said this is not a medical issue, it’s an internal affair issue. So MOI, they’re just under the pressure and paused a lot of meetings… and now the issue is still under research for four years,” Abby lamented. “We’re the first Asian country to pass the bill but it’s not implemented.”

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Despite MOHW already stating that medical professionals should not have a say when it comes to determining one’s gender identification, transgender citizens are still presently forced to consider SRS. Besides that, they are also required to seek the expensive involvement of psychiatrists and, outrageously, the consent of their parents. Otherwise, their gender identity cannot be legally recognized.

Abby clarified that not all transgender people want the help of doctors to validate their gender identity. Hence, SRS is especially discriminatory towards transgender citizens who do not wish to undergo surgery. “What is gender? Is it just based on our anatomy? Or is it in our behavior? In our mind? Or in the way we dress?… There are a lot of factors that influence what gender one identify as, but society focus on the least publicly visible aspect – our sex organ.”

Abby continued, “There are risks to surgery and that is one of the reasons why not all transgenders want to go through it. And also, they may question themselves, ‘Do I really want to have surgery or is it just for the sake of getting this ID?’”

Abby standing beside the transgender pride flag.
Photo credit: Ketty W. Chen

“One day before the presidential election, I went to the DPP (Democratic Progressive Party) headquarters to talk with the Department of Woman. I told them, ‘tomorrow is already the day for voting, are you going on stage and advocate for transgender rights? This has been neglected for the past 3-4 years. Then they just told me, ‘this requires social consensus’… I went out of that meeting deeply upset,” Abby shared.

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With lack of funding, community support and societal understanding of trans issues, how could transgender rights obtain social consensus when this feat requires acceptance and approval from the status quo in order for the relevant social change to take effect? Why should the rights and well-being of a minority group fall in the hands of the majority? Currently, both the public and the government possess inadequate knowledge in dealing with transgender issues, which exacerbates the struggles transgender citizens face.

Prejudice against transgender folks can also be felt within LGBTQ communities. On one hand, some non-transgender members of the LGBTQ community question the gender identity of trans people. On the other hand, there is also internalized transphobia.

“A lot of transgender are more binary [in the way they see gender]. They think a man should act and look a certain way and that a woman should act and look a certain way… ISTSCare does not condone this kind of thinking,” Abby said.

Trans activist Abbygail Wu and her partner in a protest for their marriage right.
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When asked why ISTSCare is run by only three people (including Abby and her partner), she shared that many transgender citizens in Taiwan find it difficult to prioritize doing advocacy work because their life situation is oftentimes mentally and emotionally taxing. On top of having to deal with an unsupportive family, they often face discrimination in the job market. Hence, there’s a high level of difficulty for them to get a good job, gain professional working experience and make a decent living, let alone have the financial resources to go through SRS. As of now, they’re in this loop of societal discrimination and economic vulnerability with no recourse.

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Another reason for the lack of transgender-focused activists in Taiwan is attributed to the problem of privilege. Abby adds that well-off transgender citizens tend to be exclusive in their social group. Post-surgery and after assimilating in heteronormative society, they also tend to ignore the struggles faced by less fortunate transgender citizens. They would rather not get associated for fear of being found out and face discrimination. Albeit joining Pride Parades, they are at other times nowhere to be found when it comes to advocating for transgender rights.

Abby clarified that not all transgender people want the help of doctors to validate their gender identity.
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Abby said that ISTSCare’s main goal right now is to push for a non-discriminatory, comprehensive gender identity law in Taiwan.

“We hope to be like Argentina. Just file [required] papers to the courthouse and they will assign the legal gender change. No need to go through any kind of medical process.”

Having a well thought out gender identity law may not help solve all transgender issues and alleviate them from all of their struggles. However, getting the said law done and implemented right would be one significant progress for the recognition of the human rights and dignity of, not only transgender citizens, but also intersex and non-binary people.

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Chance of HIV-positive person with undetectable viral load transmitting the virus to a sex partner is scientifically zero

The PARTNER 2 study found no transmissions between gay couples where the HIV-positive partner had a viral load under 200 copies/ml – even though there were nearly 77,000 acts of condomless sex between them.

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Confirmed and needs to be stressed: The chance of any HIV-positive person with an undetectable viral load transmitting the virus to a sexual partner is scientifically equivalent to zero.

This is according to researchers who released at #AIDS2018 the final results from the PARTNER study. Results originally announced in 2014 from the first phase, PARTNER 1, already indicated that “Undetectable equals Untransmittable” (U=U). But while the first study was lauded in tackling vaginal sex, the statistical certainty of the result did not convince everyone, particularly in the case of gay men, or those who engage in anal sex.

But now, PARTNER 2, the second phase, only recruited gay couples. The PARTNER study recruited HIV serodifferent couples (one partner positive, one negative) at 75 clinical sites in 14 European countries. They tested the HIV-negative partners every six to 12 months for HIV, and tested viral load in the HIV-positive partners. Both partners also completed behavioral surveys. In cases of HIV infection in the negative partners, their HIV was genetically analyzed to see if it came from their regular partner.

And the results indicate “a precise rate of within-couple transmission of zero” for gay men as well as for heterosexuals.

The study found no transmissions between gay couples where the HIV-positive partner had a viral load under 200 copies/ml – even though there were nearly 77,000 acts of condomless sex between them.

PARTNER is not the only study about viral load and infectiousness. Last year, the Opposites Attract study also found no transmissions in nearly 17,000 acts of condomless anal sex between serodifferent gay male partners. This means that no transmission has been seen in about 126,000 occasions of sex, if this study is combined with PARTNER 1 and 2.

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While this is good news overall in the fight against HIV, related issues continue to plague HIV-related efforts, particularly in countries like the Philippines.

Why aren’t we talking about ‘undetectable = untransmittable’ in the Philippines?

For instance, aside from the overall silence on U=U (undetectable = untransmittable), use of anti-retroviral therapy (ART) continue to be low. As of May 2016, when the country already had 34,158 total reported cases of HIV infection, Filipinos living with HIV who are on anti-retroviral therapy (i.e. those who are taking meds) only numbered 14,356.

The antiretroviral medicines in use in the Philippines also continue to be limited, with some already phased out in developed countries.

All the same, this is considered a significant stride, with science unequivocally backing the scientific view helmed in 2008 by Dr. Pietro Vernazza who spearheaded the scientific view that viral suppression means HIV cannot be passed via a statement in the Bulletin of Swiss Medicine.

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‘God loves LGBTQIA people; so do we.’

A Christian church wants members of the LGBTQIA community to know that “they are loved by God.” Val Paminiano, pastor of the Freedom in Christ Ministries, says that “we would like to apologize on behalf of the mainstream churches that condemn the LGBTQIA community. Sorry for hurting you; (and) even for using the Bible to hurt you.”

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God’s love is for all.

“(We want the members of the LGBTQIA community to know that) they are loved by God,” said Val Paminiano, pastor of the Freedom in Christ Ministries, which has been making its presence known particularly in LGBTQIA Pride events to highlight its Christian anti-anti-LGBTQIA position.

Approximately 80% of Filipinos are Roman Catholic, and the church’s teachings continue to dominate public life in the Philippines. As it stands, church’s teachings re LGBTQIA people still often revolve around the “hate the sin, love the sinner” statement, so that LGBTQIA people are tolerated so long as they do not express their being LGBTQIA.

This “hate the sin, love the sinner” stance seems to be reflected in dominant perspectives re LGBTQIA people in the Philippines.

In 2013, for instance, in a survey titled “The Global Divide on Homosexuality” conducted by the US-based Pew Research Center, 73% of adult Filipinos agreed with the statement that “homosexuality should be accepted by society”. The percentage of Filipinos who said society should not accept gays fell from 33% in 2002 to 26% that year.

But more recently, in June 2018, a Social Weather Stations (SWS) survey showed that a big percentage of Filipinos still oppose civil unions. When 1,200 respondents across the country were asked whether or not they agree with the statement “there should be a law that will allow the civil union of two men or two women”, at least 61% of the respondents said they would oppose a bill that would legalize this in the country. Among them, 44% said they strongly disagree, while 17% said they somewhat disagree. Meanwhile, 22% said they would support it, while 16% said they were still “undecided”.

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For Paminiano, “we would like to apologize on behalf of the mainstream churches that condemn the LGBTQIA community. Sorry for hurting you; (and) even for using the Bible to hurt you.”

Churches continue to be lambasted for not changing with time – perhaps most obvious in the treatment of LGBT people of those with faith. But the number of denominations openly discussing – and even coming up with statements of support of – LGBTQIA issues is increasing.

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All hail the beauty queen

A glimpse into the life of a trans woman beauty pageant enthusiast, Ms Mandy Madrigal of Transpinay of Antipolo Organization.

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This is part of #KaraniwangLGBT, which Outrage Magazine officially launched on July 26, 2015 to offer vignettes of LGBT people/living, particularly in the Philippines, to give so-called “everyday people” – in this case, the common LGBT people – that chance to share their stories.
As Outrage Magazine editor Michael David C. Tan says: “All our stories are valid – not just the stories of the ‘big shots’. And it’s high time we start telling all our stories.”

“I feel accepted.”

That, said Mandy Madrigal, is the main appeal of joining beauty pageants.

“I feel so loved when I join pageants. Especially when people clap for us, cheer for us. And when you win… it (just) feels different.”

FINDING ACCEPTANCE

Assigned male at birth, Mandy was in primary school when her father asked her if “I was a boy or a girl”. That question scared her, she admitted, because – as the only boy among six kids – she thought she did not really have “any choice”. “So I answered my father, ‘I am a boy’.”

But Mandy’s father asked her the same question again; and this time, “I said, yes, I am gay.”

No, Mandy is NOT gay; she is a transpinay, and a straight one at that. But the misconceptions about the binary remains – i.e. in this case, she is associated with being gay mainly because she did not identify with the sex assigned her at birth.

In a way, Mandy said she’s lucky because “I believe he (my father) accepted (me) with his whole heart.”

The rest of her family did, too.

Though – speaking realistically – Mandy said this may be abetted by her “contributions” to the family. “Hindi naman aka basta naging bakla lang (I’m not a ’typical’ gay person),” she said, “na naglalandi lang o sumasali lang ng pageant (who just flirts, or just joins beauty pageants). Instead, Mandy provides financial support to her family by – among others – selling RTW clothes and beauty products. In fact, some of her winnings also go to the family’s coffers. By helping provide them with what they need, “it’s easy for them to accept me as a transgender woman.”

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Growing up, Mandy realized that while “makakapagsinungaling ka sa ibang tao, pero sarili mo, hindi mo maloloko. Kaya mas magandang tanggapin mo ang sarili mo para matanggap ka ng ibang tao (you may be able to lie to others about who you really are, but you can’t lie to yourself. So it’s better to accept your true self so that others will be able to accept you too).”

Mandy was “introduced” to beauty pageants when she was 13 or 14. At that time, a friend asked her to join a pageant; and “I won first runner up.” She never looked backed since, even – at one time – earning as much as P20,000 after winning a title. Like many regular beauconeras (beauty pageant participants), she also heads to distant provinces to compete, largely because – according to her – prizes in provincial competitions tend to be higher. The prize money earned helps one buy more paraphernalia for the next pageants, and – in Mandy’s case – also helps support her family.

Generally speaking, Mandy Madrigal said that “ang tunay na queen ay may malaking puso (a real queen has a big heart).”

FORMING A FAMILY

Beauty pageants are competitions, yes; but for Mandy, pageants also allow the candidates to form bonds as they get close to each other. Pageants, she said, can be a way “na maging close kami, magkaroon ng magagandang bonding… at magkakilala kami (for us to be close, to bond and get to know the others better).”

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Pageants can be costly, Mandy admitted – for instance, “you have to invest,” she said, adding that a candidate needs to be able to provide for herself (instead of just always renting) costumes, swimsuits, casual wear, gowns, and so on.

In a way, therefore, having people who believe in you helps. In Mandy’s case, for instance, a lot of people helped (by providing necessities she needs) because “naniniwala sila na I am a queen inside and out,” she smiled.

But this support can also rack the nerves, particularly when people expect one to win (particularly because of the support given).

One will not always win, of course; and this doesn’t always give one good feelings. In 2017, for instance, Mandy joined Queen of Antipolo, and – after failing to win a crown – she said many people told her she should have won the title, or at least placed among the runners-up. “naguluhan ang utak ko (That confused me),” she said. “‘Bakit ako ang gusto ninyong manalo?’ But that’s when I realized na marami ako na-i-inspire na tao dahil marami nagtitiwala sa akin (I ask, ‘Why do you want me to win?’ But that’s when I realized that I inspire a lot of people, which is why they count on me).”

This gives her confidence; enough to deal with the nervousness that will also allow her to just enjoy any pageant she joins.

A TIME TO SHINE

Mandy believes pageants can help LGBTQI people by providing them a platform to showcase to non-LGBTQI people why “hindi tayo dapat husgahan (we should not be judged).”

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Generally speaking, Mandy said that “ang tunay na queen ay may malaking puso (a real queen has a big heart).”

And she knows that not every pageant is good for every contestant. There will be pageants where you will be crowned the queen, she said, just as there will be pageants where you will lose. But over and above the winning and losing, note “what’s most important: that there’s a lot of people who supported you in a (certain) pageant.”

At the end of the day, “sa lahat ng patimpalak, pagkatandaan natin na merong nananalo at may natatalo. Depende na lang yan sa araw mo. Kung ikaw ay nakatadhanang manalo ay mananalo ka; kung nakatadhanang matalo ay matatalo ka talaga. Yun lang yun. Isipin mo na lang na meron pang araw na darating na mas maganda para sa iyo (in all competitions, remember that there will always be a winner and a loser. It all depends on your luck for the day. If you are fated to win, you will win; if you are fated to lose, you will lose. That’s that. But still remember – even when you lose – that there will always come a day that will be great for you).”

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Iloilo City passes anti-discrimination ordinance on final reading

The city of Iloilo has joined the ranks of local government units (LGUs) with LGBTQI anti-discrimination ordinances (ADOs), with the Sangguniang Panlungsod (SP) unanimously approving its ADO mandating non-discrimination of members of minority sectors including the LGBTQIA community.

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Pride comes to the “City of Love”.

The city of Iloilo has joined the ranks of local government units (LGUs) with LGBTQI anti-discrimination ordinances (ADOs), with the Sangguniang Panlungsod (SP) unanimously approving its ADO mandating non-discrimination of members of minority sectors including the LGBTQI community.

The ADO was sponsored by Councilor Liezl Joy Zulueta-Salazar, chair of the SP Committee on Women and Family Relations. Councilor Love Baronda helped with the content/provisions of the ordinance.

“Everyone deserves equal protection under the law. This local legislation reinforces the Constitutional rights and the inalienable human rights of everyone to be treated equally,” Zulueta-Salazar said to Outrage Magazine. “It has always been a question of equality versus equity. Your government is a duty-bearer to protect everyone under the law. Moreso those who have time and again, been victims of injustice borne out from bigotry and indifference. That has to change now. Discrimination has no place in the ‘City of Love’.”

The ADO defines acts of discrimination to include: refusal of employment, refusal of admission in schools, refusal of entry in places open to general public, deprivation of abode or quarters, deprivation of the provision of goods and services, subjecting one to ridicule or insult, and doing acts that demeans the dignity and self-respect or a person because of sex, gender identity, sexual orientation, race, color, descent, ethnic origin, and religious beliefs.

Penalties range from P1,000 for the first offense, P2,000 for the second offense and imprisonment of not more than 10 days at the discretion of the court, and P3,000 and 15 days imprisonment on the third offense.

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The ADO also mandates the creation of the anti-discrimination mediation and conciliation board headed by the mayor. This board will initiate the filing of cases against violators.

“Discrimination… violates basic human rights thus making it our duty as public servants to protect our citizens from unwarranted and unfair treatment coming from their fellow citizens, or worse from their own government. We respect and give emphasis to the right of every person because what matters is for us to be humane and to do everything in love,” Baronda said to Outrage Magazine.

Zulueta-Salazar added that “having worked with the marginalized sectors of our society through non-government organizations like the Family Planning Organization of the Philippines Iloilo Chapter and the different barangay local governments in Iloilo City, we have seen how the struggles of the LGBTQI, of the urban poor, of the religious minorities including the Indigenous Peoples displaced in the city. This ordinance is for them, not for special or preferential treatment from their government, but to give them what they truly deserve: a more just and equitable treatment by providing an enabling environment for them to be equally productive members of the society.”

For Zulueta-Salazar, the salient points in the Iloilo ADP may be the same as the other ADOs across the country, “but the one we have here in Iloilo City is a product of hard fought struggle for equality not just for one sector of the society, but generally as a statement that the ‘City of Love’ does not discriminate based on gender, age, race or religion. That in the ‘City of Love’, truly it can be said now that love wins.”

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For Iloilo City-based Rev. Alfred Candid Jaropillo, who heads the United Church of Christ in the Philippines (UCCP), the ADO “is a step for the ‘City of Love’ in creating a community where the rights of all its constituents are respected and protected. As a clergy of the UCCP, I commend our government officials for passing the said ordinance (to show that) Iloilo is indeed a safe city for our sisters and brothers coming from the LGBTQI community.”

The Iloilo City Legal Office has 60 days from approval to promulgate the implementing rules and regulations (IRR), while the Public Information Office shall conduct an information drive 30 days from approval. The ordinance takes effect 10 days after its publication in a local newspaper.

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Mandaluyong City passes LGBT anti-discrimination ordinance

With the continuing absence of a national law that will protect the human rights of LGBTQI Filipinos, the city of Mandaluyng passed Ordinance 698, S-2018, which seeks to “uphold the rights of all Filipinos especially those discriminated against based on their sexual orientation, gender identity and expression (SOGIE).”

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With the continuing absence of a national law that will protect the human rights of LGBTQI Filipinos (largely – at least for this year – because of a weak political support from the Philippine Senate via the non-leadership on this issue by Senate Pres. Vicente Sotto III and Majority Floor Leader Juan Miguel Zubiri), localized anti-discrimination efforts are again in focus. This time around, the city of Mandaluyng passed Ordinance 698, S-2018, which seeks to “uphold the rights of all Filipinos especially those discriminated against based on their sexual orientation, gender identity and expression (SOGIE).”

With this, it is now “the policy of the Mandaluyong City government to afford equal protection to LGBTQI people as guaranteed by our Constitution and to craft legal legislative measures in support of this aim.”

According to Dindi Tan, secretary general of LGBT Pilipinas, which helped push for the passage of this anti-discrimination ordinance (ADO), said that “the tactic now is to shift from a national lobby to local lobby, which is more pragmatic and feasible given the prevailing political environment in Congress.”

The Mandaluyong City ADO is specific to he LGBTQI community. Other ADOs in other localities lump the LGBTQI community with other minority sectors, including persons with disability (PWDs), seniors, cultural minorities, et cetera. But this city ordinance is specific to LGBTQI people, focusing on sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression.

“We continue to relentlessly lobby for the passage of local ADOs and similar policies such as this one from the Tiger City of Mandaluyong pending the enactment of a national law made for (this) purpose,” Tan said. “We can’t afford to wait forever for the Anti-Discrimination Bill (ADB) to pass in the Senate and the bicam while our LGBTQI sisters and brothers on the ground continue to be the targets of gender-based violence and discrimination.”

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Mandaluyong City’s ADO specifically prohibits such discriminatory acts as: denying or limiting employment-related access; denying access to public programs or services; refusing admission, expelling or dismissing a person from educational institutions due to their SOGIE; subjecting a person to verbal or written abuse; unjust detention/involuntary confinement; denying access to facilities; and illegalizing formation of groups that incite SOGIE-related discrimination.

For the city to attain its goals, activities lined-up include: incorporating LGBTQI activities in Women’t Month celebrations; hosting of seminars in private and public spaces; and month-long Pride celebration in November, culminating on World AIDS Day on December 1.

The ADO also “strongly” encourages the Mandaluyong City Police District “to handle the specific concerns relating to SOGIE through existing Violence Against Women and Children (VAWC) desk in all police stations in Mandaluying City.”

A Mandaluyong City Pride Council will also be established to oversee the implementation of the ordinance.

Any person held liable under the ADO may be penalized with imprisonment for 60 days to one year and/or penalized with P1,000 to P5,000, depending on the discretion of the court.

Pushed by Sangguniang Panglungsod councilor China S. Celeste, Mandaluyong City Mayor Carmencita A. Abalos signed the ADO on May 17.

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