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Sex toys can help in dealing with the shame and guilt of unexpressed sexual desires

It turns out that sex toys can help people find freedom from their sense of guilt, which often accompanies such unexpressed desires.

A visit to the local sex shop can help couples deal with sexual guilt better. Most of the bedroom guilt we deal with originates from the harboring desires of a sexual nature that we are not comfortable about sharing with our partner. The ensuing shame is a result of feeling as if these desires are not appropriate, and those feelings are intensified with time.

It turns out that sex toys can help people find freedom from their sense of guilt, which often accompanies such unexpressed desires. As to how exactly products from an adult sex shop can help in that regard, we will explore the possibilities below.

The Psychology of “Play”

If you visit any sex toy shop online or offline, you will find that the tags mostly include terms that directly or indirectly mark them as toys for playing a game. Various sections have names such as roleplay, sex toys, sex games, etc. Most toys that you will find in a sex shop have been designed with the theme of play in mind. On the other hand, terms like equipment, device, tool, etc. are carefully avoided because they do not go well with the idea of playing a game. This is not a coincidence; there is a well thought out psychological aspect to be analysed here.

Similar to how a standup comedian can joke about sensitive subjects or take stabs at audience members without feeling guilty for it, the very conception of playing a game liberates our mind from guilt. The light-hearted theme of sex toys can unshackle us from the shame of our own sexual desires because they are, after all, just toys in a private game. In other words, sex toys change our perception of hidden sexual desires from something offensive to something that is playful.

Role of Sex Toys Beyond Play

After one or both partners get past the initial guilt by engaging in a game of pleasure, they slowly begin to perceive their sexuality as natural and normal rather than abnormal. Guilt begins to dissipate with each session, and the person becomes more and more sexually liberated with time. The toys, however, continue to aid them in exploring new areas of the human sexual psyche, without unnecessary shame.

Independence and Confidence

It has been found that older singles often suffer from severe sexual guilt and shame, irrespective of their gender. This is often a result of:

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  • Not being able to find a partner
  • Having sexual desires without a partner to share them
  • Developing sexual fantasies that might not be accepted in society

An adult sex shop with its plethora of toys can help them come in better terms with their desires, even if they do not have a partner at that time. For example, if you pay a visit to Saints and Sinners, you will find that the online sex shop has a wide range of bullets and dildos among other sex toys. Of course, the sex shop also has advanced sex toys for men and women who are already past their sexual inhibitions and into serious roleplay, but these gateway toys play a crucial role. Since they symbolize the fact that a woman does not need a partner to make her fantasies come true anymore, that in itself acts as a liberating thought and experience.

Sexual pleasure was and still is to a great extent, considered in popular religions and cultures as a sin, which is where all our root issues with sexual guilt originate from. The sex toy, on the other hand, uses the psychologically acceptable perception of playing games to slowly liberate the mind from spoon-fed notions about sex, sexuality, and sexual pleasure.

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