“Watch those teeth! Watch those teeth!”
This, says Sonny J., a self-proclaimed “exclusive oral kind of guy,” is “something I am now so used to saying, especially (when I frequent such places as) E (Epitome) or F (Fahrenheit) or the M (Mansion) or the Q (Queeriosity),” he says. “It’s almost like everyone wants to get into the act, but they don’t even know how to do it. At least not properly, anyway.”
Sonny J. is talking about getting a head, of course – also known as fellatio, chupa, hada, blow job, hummer, or kuflang, among others, to refer to the acquisition of sexual satisfaction with the use of the mouth titillating the male genitalia, err, penis/dick/cock, something he feels he should be getting “if not greatly, then at least right,” considering that, as he is based in Marikina City, “those who I meet should at least make (my coming over) worth it.”
There should be, he stresses, “some rules on this. Starting with: ‘Watch those teeth!’”
While Sonny J. is correct in calling for some rules – who knows who didn’t have bad head job, after all! – there are, unfortunately, no rules on giving heads (some people actually like the pain of the teeth leaving their marks, so…).
There are, nonetheless, and fortunately, sucking tips.
START WITH THE ATTITUDE
“If you approach this as something that disgusts you, or even a chore then in my opinion, you shouldn’t bother doing it. No matter how many cool tips you know, you will never give really good head without (desiring it),” says Lisa Lawless of holisticwisdom.com. Thus, “the most important ingredient to giving fantastic fellatio (remains the) attitude. If you perceive any sex act, including fellatio to be dirty, repulsive, or a chore then it will be.”
With it considered s a chore, therefore, the laziness sets in – thus the carelessness that it is not done right, and, as Sonny J. complains, those teeth scraping that cock and those balls.
“If you approach it as an opportunity to be the sexual goddess or god in the bedroom where you have total (consensual) control over your partner, with the ability to make them scream out for more until they reach an earth shattering orgasm where they can’t stand up for a half an hour due to the sheer mind blowing sexual experience they just had, then I’d say you are going in the best direction for attitude in giving fellatio,” Lawless says.
To be able to do it properly, not only should the suckee be in a comfortable position – so should the sucker. Sucking, after all, can strain the neck – and the jaw or the lips, depending on the size of the cock of the suckee. Try kneeling on a pillow before the guy, any guy, who is either standing or seated; otherwise, crouch between his legs while he’s on his back on the bed or the floor or wherever.
Too lazy? Let the suckee do the thrusting as the sucker lies down with his mouth in “O” position (can be done sideways, too); though the drawback of this is, when extremely excited, the suckee may push too hard, and that can be nasty.
DEVELOP A TECHNIQUE
As earlier stated, there are no hard rules to follow when sucking cock. But some techniques are known to deliver a whammy cocksucking experience.
Use the hand – and more. Contrary to popular belief that sucking means no hands involved, the use of hands is actually essential – to be used when the mouth is too tired (for those whose suckees take too long to cum), or to help in titillation (e.g. feather touches, cupping of balls, et cetera). After all, even Sebastien Bonnet or Dano Sulik or Chad Hunt or Jeff Stryker or Hal Rockland use their hands when they suck, and they’re already masters, supposedly.
Oh, try to limit the suckees’ use of hands to gentle coaxing, by the way, else keep their hands off…
Of course, there are the lips, the tongue, the hair, or whatever to be used – just keep those teeth (or anything as inflexible) off the cock, unless specifically asked.
Taking it deep? “Often, people think that someone highly skilled in the art of fellatio will not only deep throat, but will do it for the entire length of the blow job. Nothing could be further from the truth. Of course if you are comfortable with it then by all means deep throat him during the course of oral sex, but if you are not using other techniques with your tongue, lips, hands, and fingers then you are probably giving a rather boring blow job,” Lawless says.
Deep throat actually feels good because the mouth cavity is only three to four inches deep, and if an average size penis (from four inches) is engulfed by the throat (with the uvula pressing the frenulum, causing the gulping reaction), then what’s there is a “snug, warm, wet environment.”
If/when with concerns with breathing, practice breathing through the nose – use a banana during spare time; else, take breaks in between, take the dick out of the mouth, and use the hands to maintain flow of stimulation (while licking, kissing and all).
Variations of approaches, e.g. vary the sucking, thus the amount of pressure created on the penis; vary the cock position, from deep throat to just at the tip of the mouth; humming to create that vibration on the shaft, while showing how much the cock is appreciated; et cetera.
Problems with gagging? Some use Chloraseptic Throat Spray or children’s teething gel to numb the back of the throat; the best solution, though, is to practice, practice, practice. Or just take breaks when sucking.
Remember: The cock isn’t everything. Focus on other body parts, too. Lick the balls. Reach for the nipples. Apply pressure to the perineum (the spot between the anus and the penis) with one or two fingers, as this can feel good. Or if the suckee’s adventurous, insert a finger up the ass (do it slowly, if not gently), as this can increase sensation when cumming.
TALK, TALK, TALK
Arguably the most important tip is keeping the communication lines open. Keeping an eye contact (this, in itself, can be sexy, too – though sucking in a sex club, where it’s dark, is another thing, of course), stop to say when the suckee’s too worked up he’s pushing even his legs up the sucker’s throat.
“If he thrusts or pushes you down a bit onto him and you find yourself gagging, pull back up and pause to let him know that it is uncomfortable. If he does not clue in on this you can come up and begin using your hand to recuperate or let him know that you were beginning to hit the gag reflex a bit, and you want to rest a minute while playing with his cock. He most likely will be happy you do this because the last thing a man wants is for you to throw up on him because you were too worried that he would not understand that his penis is going to hit the back of your throat from time to time and cause a gag reflex,” Lawless says.
Talking is also important when it comes to cumming – it’s when swallowing or not swallowing is decided. “If you really have an issue with (this), let him cum elsewhere whether in a condom, in your hands, on himself, inside you (anally), on your chest or neck as you revel in it. The best thing to do to make your intentions known is to make a comment before or during oral sex to let him know where you want him to cum,” Lawless says.
Irrespective of where the suckee comes, though, the sucker should just make sure the cumming happens.
Suckers can actually get sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV and/or AIDS from giving oral sex, so caution is to be observed – i.e. the usual “don’t brush the teeth before sucking (and swallowing cum, particularly) strangers,” and “don’t even use a mouthwash before giving that head job” apply, since these activities increase the possibility of wounding the mouth, thus possible entry points for diseases.
“Remember, a blow job should not just be up and down motions or about deep throating, it can have many facets to it, including licking, kissing, using your hands, and rubbing that delicious cock all over your face, neck, chest and elsewhere. This provides amazing visual stimulation, as well as the pleasure of feeling his hard, pulsating cock all over you,” Lawless says.
As for Sonny J., knowing there are ways for “suckers to learn how to, well, suck, is most certainly welcome.”