By Michelle Miller
‘I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health’ – sounds great. Great, but very unrealistic…
If all the people abided by the promises they gave to their partners at the beginning of relationships, almost 50% of married couples would not get divorced. But they do.
Why does your partner have to be loyal to you? Is there any written consent where you promise to love only one person till the end of your days? In reality, everyone is free to develop intimate feelings to anyone they want.
But if one day, a person we truly love has a new flame and decides to leave us, it might become one of our most traumatic experiences in life. But how to prevent this? If there is no guarantee that two people will always be loyal to each other, how do we make our partners never think about cheating on us?
The question is very complex and versatile, but there is an answer.
Bring Something New To The Relationship
To not get bored with each other, try to always bring something fresh into your relationships. Travel together. Discover new places on Earth and explore each other. Go to a new restaurant. Maybe, you’ll both realize that this new Asian dish is something you won’t be able to live without.
Try new things in sex. What makes your relationships different from the ones you have with friends or family members is the fact that only both of you know how to bring each other a lot of pleasure. Your sexual relationship is the most private and intimate part of life that only two of you share.
Don’t be afraid to go to an Adult Toy Shop and buy something that will heat up your sex life. Don’t be afraid to talk about your fantasies and turn them into reality. Trying something new in sex is one of the most important strategies to fall in love with each other every day.
Don’t Chase Your Loved One
Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.
One of the most common mistakes of many partners is that they see a potential hazard everywhere. They feel that the person they love can cheat on them with their best friend, with a colleague at work or with a hairdresser who makes eyes at them.
Being worried about a partner’s fidelity, many people become overcontrolling. They are not aware that it only exacerbates the problem and makes the relationship unpleasant for their loved ones.
Why did you come later from work? Why did you start following this person’s Instagram account? With whom were you talking on the phone for so long? -all these questions make your partner feel that they are forced to stay with you, and this is not their voluntary decision.
A prohibited fruit tastes sweeter. If you don’t let the person you love to communicate with the people they want to, they are much more likely to cheat on you. Show them that you have nothing to be afraid of and you know your value.
Focus On Yourself
You may ask why, to make our partners want to stay with us, we need to focus on ourselves instead of giving all the love and attention to them? The answer is simple; you have to be an interesting person in order to attract your loved one all over again.
While spending all your energy on pleasing the partner, you risk losing your individuality. It makes you a convenient person who is very easy to manipulate.
Make room for yourself. Don’t let your loved one become your whole universe, even if you want so. Have some time for hobbies, career, or personal growth. Don’t make your partner the only friend you have. Communicate with many people.
The person who is happy with their life and can enjoy it both alone or in a relationship is valued by their partner. The charming sparkles in the eyes in the midst of doing something you really love is something that is impossible not to fall in love with.
Also, your willingness to grow personally will always make your beloved one want to catch up with you. Being eager to develop, your partner will be less likely to have enough time for affairs with other people. You will be the person that they are going to be afraid to lose, not the other way around.
Remember that even if you feel that your love for another person is the most powerful and strong feeling you’ve ever experienced, you should never neglect yourself. Self-love attracts the right partners in life and makes you less weak and lonely when a relationship shatters. The only person who for 100% will ‘be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health’ is only you.
Michelle Miller is a Florida-based writer and graduate of UF College of Journalism and Communications, Gainesville, FL. She writes in various niches like sex-relationships, cannabis, health-wellness, etc. When not writing, she enjoys hiking to new places and playing guitar.