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What to do when an ex won’t let you move on

Whether your ex was guilty of infidelity, including cyber cheating, or love just fizzled out doesn’t matter. Whatever happens, you owe it to yourself to find your route to freedom.

Ending a relationship is never easy. Unfortunately, some ex-lovers will make it harder to walk away than others. Worse still, it’s almost impossible to know whether a person is going to become difficult until the relationship is over.

Whether your ex was guilty of infidelity, including cyber cheating, or love just fizzled out doesn’t matter. Whatever happens, you owe it to yourself to find your route to freedom. Here’s how to regain control of your love status and general life.

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Seek A Clear Financial Resolution

It’s never nice to jump straight into the financial battles. Sadly, if you were in a serious relationship, it’s inevitable that disputes will occur. Therefore, it’s imperative that you tackle those issues head on. Otherwise, you’re asking for another obstacle to appear.

Some couples can do this without the courts. However, the fact that your ex is being difficult suggests that you’ll need to do this in an official manner. Given the situation, it may be best to sell the home and other major assets. Aside from being an easy solution, it avoids the threat of you being left with items that have emotional ties.

It’s very difficult to move on with your life or make a fresh start without first achieving that financial solution. Money isn’t the most important thing in life, but this is one of the most crucial parts of your recovery.

Stand Up For Yourself

A sense of assertiveness is particularly crucial at this time in your life, not least if your ex is trying to be difficult. This is even more important if you’ve been in an abusive relationship, physically or emotionally. Break their dominance, and you’ll finally be set to move on.

It is possible that your ex will try to get desperate by falsely dragging you into situations and legal battles. When fighting these situations, leave it the experts and ignore any personal contact with your ex. A child abuse lawyer should be able to prove your innocence. When coupled with your lack of interaction, your ex-partner should soon get the message.

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The worst thing you could do is sit back and let them walk over you or claw you back into their life. As tough as it can feel at times, standing up for yourself is vital. Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, and you won’t go far wrong.

Move On

After suffering a toxic relationship, you may not be ready for another serious one for some time. However, there’s nothing wrong with the confidence boost from a little dating. Alternatively, you could start a new hobby or class to see if anything naturally surfaces there.

Perhaps most importantly, you need to invest time in yourself and learn to be happy in your skin once more. Your needy or demanding ex may have knocked your confidence for six. Hiring a personal trainer to get you back into shape can be a life-changing experience. This is a great time to focus on career goals and other achievements.

It may not feel like it right now, but it is possible to break free and get your life back on track. Now that you have a winning plan of action at your disposal, it’s time to make things happen.

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