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8 Lesbians you will meet in Craigslist

One night, while looking for a used longboard, Gee Cruz stumbles upon Craiglist – that community website where people post ads for free. And so she crossed paths with lesbians who she thinks generally fall into eight categories.



One night while I was looking for a used longboard, I stumbled upon Craiglist. Yes, that community website where you can post ads for free. To my amusement, I noticed there was a personals portion and they even allowed advertisers to choose according to your sexual preference. So I posted an ad, a story (“About Last Night”) actually, and spent one month meeting those who responded.

  1. The Psycho – She will turn your world upside down. She knows she is the first woman you have been intimate with so she will play with your head. Why? Because you are a newbie – you still do not know what it is supposed to be like. You will willingly subject yourself to humiliation you would not usually not put up with. You will think it is part of her charm, but you will later realize there are people way better than her – and it would not even include a bed just to feel great.
  2. The Madame – She is the alpha bisexual that people who recently outed themselves would want to be like. She has the killer trifecta (brain, looks and career), which is why both men and women long to be with her. If you walk with her with your normal casual clothes and messy hair, you will look like a security detail. Her philosophy: “Carpe diem”, and that one is inked on her to remind herself and inspire others.
  3. The Curious Mother – She is a mother who could relate to my ad. Operative word – mother. She has been through failed relationships, but juggling her career and motherhood. Probably experimenting with her sexuality. She does not really care. The Curious Mother would invite you to her house, offer pastries and share her own stories.
  4. The Discreet – She would reply to your online ad with just “when?”, referring to a date when you want to meet her. You would be so curious and will immediately reply with a date. She is the one who can compartmentalize her life – there is a box for her lesbian life, for her business, and for friends from a conservative school. You will be amazed by her ability to do this.
  5. The Tattooed Woman – When you first see her you will imagine that she may use a name from a rock legend or some name with an umph! But no, she is in fact using a conservative, three-syllable Filipina name. She has flower tattoos and poetry all over her body, and you will immediately ask her “why did you get them?” Romance, passion and art.
  6. The Engineer – You will never meet her because she is working as a chemical engineer abroad and she is raising the flag being the only woman to be the boss of a lot of men in a plant. You will grow fond of her because you will think that working outside the Philippines will make her more liberated, but she will find your stories wilder than hers. She will be amused by your adventures until one day she will ask for your office address and send you lunch she ordered online. You will flirt with her until she drops the bomb: “I love my girlfriend.”
  7. The No-nonsense – “You do not have to explain yourself and you do not have to tell others that you are gay” was her major introduction. You will feel her confidence oozing out of your computer screen and that will automatically make you hit the reply button and invite her to have coffee whenever she is free. When you meet her, you will figure she is someone who has made it or close to making it.
  8.  The Stalker – She is the resident private eye. She has one simple task: data mining a.k.a. stalking people. So, if you are not comfortable having people know about you, it is either you befriend her or avoid her.
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I spent so much time trying to hide myself from people – afraid of being judged, until I found a group of people who are very comfortable with their sexuality. Their stories inspire me every time and make me hope that one day I could also be free as they are now. Well, it is a process.

Gee Cruz, 28, is a human resource practitioner and a graduate student. She may probably be called a fool for regularly booking flights and hotel accommodations abroad, but would never really show up on the date itself because a good movie is being shown on TV. However, she never misses a year without her trips to Boracay and Zambales where she would spend days of sleeping - trying to get the "work wrinkles" off her forehead. She could be one of the most socially awkward person you will ever know, but it is ironic that she would agree to meet up strangers from Craigslist.


Spicing up your relationship in 2020

Regardless of whether you have a partner or if you are single, there are many trends out there just waiting for you to try.



It’s normal to set some goals for ourselves at the start of a new year. These can range from quitting the job we no longer love doing, traveling the world and experiencing all sorts of new things and taking better care of our health and happiness. One area that we can always try to improve at, which allows us to both be happier and experiment a bit, is our sex lives.

Various studies have shown that sex is getting more and more experimental, and regardless of whether you have a partner or if you are single, there are many trends out there just waiting for you to try them.

Here are some ways how you can spice up your sex life in 2020.

A Bigger Accent Is Put on Female Pleasure

2020 will bring a greater focus on the study of the female body and all the ways how women can experience an orgasm. To help in this department, the sex industry is not only coming out with more and more gadgets and wellness products made for women but there are now plenty of books that can educate us about the female body as well. Luckily, all genders seem to be very open towards familiarizing themselves with how women can enjoy sex to the fullest and consent and respect have never been more important. Get in touch with your own and your partner’s body in order to learn what feels best.

Male Self-Pleasure Is No Longer Taboo

For a long time, men were ashamed to admit that they, too, enjoy sex toys. While it is true that these devices were mostly marketed to women in the past, nowadays more and more gadgets are coming out that are made especially for men who want to try something fresh. For instance, for greater pleasure, prostate massagers and butt plugs are highly recommended for people who are single and looking for a new experience but also for those in relationships looking to switch things up. There should be no shame in getting pleasure during sex and those a bit more open to the idea can even consider pegging if they have a willing partner.

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Toys for Couples Are More and More Popular

Many people still believe that sex toys are self-love gadgets that we use only when we are alone. However, while these devices might be the most reliable hook-up for some single people, a lot of couples opt for bringing toys into their sex life seeing as how it can make the whole experience much more memorable and enjoyable. We mentioned butt plugs and prostate massagers earlier but the selection of couples’ sex toys is truly amazing. From vibrating cock rings to insertable vibrators, many of these toys can be used on their own but also in combination with other products with the goal of providing all participants with amazing sensations and an enhanced sexual experience. Plus, gender-neutral and inclusive product design is gaining more popularity which means that people of all sexualities will feel welcome to try something new.

Virtual Reality and 3d Technology Are Making Long-Distance Relationships Easier

The tech advancements can be seen in all spheres of life, so why would sex be any different? Virtual reality technology makes it easier to have sex with anyone, in any place and at any time. Regardless of whether you are in a long-distance relationship and want some intimate time with your SO or are looking to fulfill your next fantasy, VR has it all. Plus, 3D printing now makes it easy to create fully customized vibrators or penetrative toys that resemble the genitals of your partner so it can feel like you’re really together. What is more, if you have an internet connection, you can even allow your other half to control your toy via an app regardless of how far they may be.

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Sexual Mindfulness is Practiced

As is with everything else these days, we often tend to rush through our ‘sexy times’ as well. Experts are encouraging us to implement mindful practices into our lives and that means slowing things down to really experience them to the fullest. Yoga and meditation techniques are recommended in order to achieve this. Furthermore, solo experimentation is encouraged as well as among partners.

Audio Porn Allows More Imagination

While mainstream porn is mainly male-centered, audio porn is oriented more towards women. It is becoming more and more popular and in 2020, it is bigger than ever before. Seeing as how regular porn often creates beauty norms and standards that are not true in real life, it is no wonder that women often cannot connect with this kind of content. By playing some audio erotica, listeners are able to rely on their imagination to really engage with their sexuality.

CBD and THC Products Heighten the Pleasure

Bearing in mind that cannabis products are often used to reduce stress levels, it should come as no surprise that CBD and THC products have also found their place in the sex industry. Products such as CBD lube not only heighten the pleasure that the individuals feel but they can also aid with pelvic and menstrual pain relief and relaxation.

Consensual Non-Monogamy Is Becoming Mainstream

People are becoming more open toward polygamy and polyamory and that is reflected in the sex trends for 2020. It is no longer uncommon to see consensual non-monogamous couples that love to attend sex parties and experiment with other people. It is believed that CNM relationships are far more common than we realize so further discussion and research on this topic needs to be conducted.

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The above mentioned trends are just some that people will be relying on to spice up their relationships in 2020. With more and more people being open about their sexuality and sexual preferences, few things are truly taboo or aren’t catered for. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, being more adventurous in the bedroom (or wherever your experiences might take you) and trying new things might just be the best decision you make this year. 

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Sex during the COVID-19 outbreak

What are the risks associated with intimacy in the time of coronavirus?



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The past days we’ve been introduced to the concept of “social distancing” (that is, maintaining at least a meter apart from one another). But the concept continues to escape many (e.g. there’s even a call to deal with the elitism of the terminology by using different languages, such as #LikayLuwas in the Visayas). Because truly, it’s nearly impossible to practice “social distancing” particularly when with people with whom we share homes with – e.g. and even our beds, in the case of partners.

Now… what are the risks associated with intimacy in the time of coronavirus?

Is COVID-19 transmissible during sexual intercourse?

To start, COVID-19 is not a sexually transmitted disease.

But – as stated by the Ministry of Health of Luxembourg on the European nation’s official website – “the virus being present in the respiratory secretions and being able to be transmitted by direct contact of person to person, sexual intercourse is favorable to a transmission of the virus, if one of the partners is infected.”

Other sex options may also include: sexting, video-calls, reading erotica and masturbation (not necessarily mutual when touching each other needs to be avoided).
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How is COVID-19 transmitted?

Canada’s B.C. Centre for Disease Control stated that the novel coronavirus is “transmitted via larger liquid droplets when a person coughs or sneezes” and that “the virus can enter through these droplets through the eyes, nose or throat if you are in close contact.”

There is no evidence that COVID-19 can be transmitted via either vaginal or anal intercourse.

So what are (some of) the modes of transmission (particularly related to sex)?

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Touching can spread COVID-19 – e.g. it can be spread by touch if a person used his/her hands to cover the mouth or nose when coughing or sneezing.

Kissing is a very common practice during sexual intercourse, and the virus can be transmitted via saliva. Meaning the virus can be transmitted by kissing.

There is evidence of oral-fecal transmission of COVID-19, implying that analingus may represent a risk for infection.

“If you live with a regular sexual partner and you don’t have any symptoms, or likely exposure, sex might actually be a really great way to have fun.”
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So what now?

Interviewed by The Guardian, Dr. Jessica Justman – a professor and attending physician in the Division of Infectious Diseases at the Columbia University Irving Medical Center – stated: “If you or your partner is a COVID-19 case, the advice is to steer clear of each other as much as possible… If you’re a possible or confirmed case you should isolate yourself, ideally in a private residence until seven days after the illness began. You need to have had no fever for 72 hours, without using ibuprofen or anything that would mask your fever, and your respiratory symptoms should be improving.”

Added in the same article by Dr. Julia Marcus – an infectious disease epidemiologist and professor in the Department of Population Medicine at Harvard Medical School: “For people who don’t have symptoms and don’t have any recent likely exposure and have been staying close to home, I think that, if it’s within your own household, it’s a different story. If you live with a regular sexual partner and you don’t have any symptoms, or likely exposure, sex might actually be a really great way to have fun, stay connected and relieve anxiety during this potentially stressful time.”

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Other sex options may also include: sexting, video-calls, reading erotica and masturbation (not necessarily mutual when touching each other needs to be avoided).

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‘Financial infidelity’ can be as harmful as sexual infidelity

Consumers more prone to financial infidelity exhibited a stronger preference for secretive purchase options, such as using a personal credit card versus a jointly held card, and cash over credit.



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Romantic partners aren’t always honest about money in their relationships, but when does hiding purchases, debt and savings constitute “financial infidelity”? Research by professors at four universities, including Indiana University, defines the concept and provides a means for predicting its occurrence within relationships.

“Love, Lies and Money: Financial Infidelity in Romantic Relationships,” forthcoming in the Journal of Consumer Research, is the first systematic investigation of financial infidelity in committed romantic relationships.

The professors define financial infidelity as “engaging in any financial behavior that is expected to be disapproved of by one’s romantic partner and intentionally failing to disclose this behavior to them.” It involves both the financial “act” and the subsequent concealment.

It differs from secret consumption and merely hiding spending because it involves a broader set of financial behaviors, including seemingly “positive” actions such as saving extra income in a personal bank account.

“Financial infidelity has the potential to be as harmful for relationship health and longevity as sexual infidelity, as conflicts over money are also a primary reason for divorce,” said co-author Jenny Olson, assistant professor of marketing at the IU Kelley School of Business. “Given the role that finances play in the health of relationships, consumers benefit from being aware of financial infidelity and its consequences.”

Growing in popularity is financial therapy, which combines finance with emotional support to help individuals and couples think, feel and behave with money to improve their overall well-being, make logical spending decisions and face financial challenges.

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“An understanding of financial infidelity can benefit financial services companies and advisors, clinical therapists and relationship counselors, all of whom play a role in promoting consumer well-being,” Olson said. “If couples seek professional financial advice, they must be willing to openly discuss their spending and savings habits, debts and financial goals. It is clear that financial infidelity is a barrier to effective planning, as well as to a healthy relationship.”

The researchers developed a “financial infidelity scale (FI-Scale)” using a dozen lab and field tests. Key findings included:

  • Whether the financial act is expected to elicit any level of disapproval was more important than the degree of disapproval.
  • Consumers more prone to financial infidelity exhibited a stronger preference for secretive purchase options, such as using a personal credit card versus a jointly held card, and cash over credit.
  • A preference for ambiguous packaging and shopping at inconspicuous stores.
  • A greater likelihood of concealing financial information from their partner in a mobile banking app.

Each choice is relevant to marketers. The prevalence of financial infidelity among consumers and variations along the FI-Scale affect purchasing decisions. It is important that companies be aware of certain consumer segments that may be prone to financial infidelity and thus affect their bottom lines.

For example, the trend of businesses going “cash-free” may affect retailers such as beauty salons and gift shops because of the use of cash to disguise purchases. Consumers strategically using cash may be less willing to make purchases only for their pleasure or personal wants.

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Other authors on the study are Emily Garbinsky, assistant professor of marketing at the Mendoza College of Business at the University of Notre Dame; Joe J. Gladstone, assistant professor of consumer behavior at the School of Management at University College London; and Hristina Nikolova, the Diane Harkins Coughlin and Christopher J. Coughlin Sesquicentennial assistant professor at the Carroll School of Management at Boston College.

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Sex facts nobody tells you about

If you don’t go to the right sources, you’ll find that there’s a lot about sex that you still don’t know. Sex is beautiful, but it’s also one topic that requires anyone to become educated.



Sex. This word is possibly one of the most controversial in the English Language and for good reason. Sex sells, sex is racy, and sex is also amazing. But sex is also one topic that is still considered taboo in many cultures, which births so many ignorant theories that leave many people baffled. From basic quips to advanced theories, here are some facts about sex nobody tells you about.

The Myth Surrounding Sex Toys 

Many people think that only kinky or sex-crazed couples get to use sex toys, or that only middle-aged single women use vibrators. On the contrary, sex toys have been growing increasingly popular among many couples of all ages. For starters, sex toys have proven to spice up the bedroom and bring you closer to your partner. It does not remove intimacy, but rather enhances it. 

Sex toys like vibrators or even assistive devices like penis pumps can aid pleasure more than you know. Penis pumps creators at claim that it’s a revolutionary device set to help you keep your erection in an effortless manner, thus making you focus on one thing: getting the deed done pleasurably. These devices aid erectile dysfunction as well. Many vibrators also help women orgasm faster to enhance their sexual experience. Needless to say, some of these toys and devices might actually help elevate your sexual journey. 

Sex is Messy 

Remember those sex scenes in a movie where they’ve just had sex and lie in bed or get up effortlessly as if there was no romp in the sheets? In the real world, sex is quite messy and isn’t followed by an immediate cuddle session each time. Many people have failed to mention that after sex, you’re required to clean up your business. Whether you keep a towel next to you or you shower immediately, cleaning yourself up is the most sanitary thing to do. 

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Speaking of messes, one thing many ladies should know is that what comes up, must come down. If your partner ejaculated inside of you without a condom, then eventually his semen will come out a few minutes after; your body doesn’t magically absorb it. 

All About the Big O 

There’s still looming mystery surrounding the female orgasm. Believe it or not, studies have shown that orgasms get better as you age. There isn’t the kind of pressure to perform as you once had in your 20s; you’re more confident, you understand your body more, and you know exactly what you want. With women, their sexual prime lasts well beyond their 30s and 40s. 

One of the many misconceptions is that women orgasm from penetration. Believe it or not, that isn’t always the case. Many men (and women) believe that women can only orgasm with penetration, and if they don’t, then they’re super disappointed and claim sex isn’t that enjoyable. When, in fact, all that woman needs is a good old clitoral stimulation doing the trick. Around 80% of women in a study have claimed to the only orgasm from clitoris stimulation as opposed to 18% percent who claimed penetration does the trick. 

Sexual Drive Differs

While other studies also claim that sexual desire and drives change over the years, it can still depend on a number of factors. For starters, sexual drive differs from one person to the other. The supposed frequency of sex that many studies claim a mature couple goes through doesn’t necessarily mean it will happen to you.

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Yes, you might find that physical changes are inevitable such as vaginal dryness or problems with erections, but that doesn’t mean your drive is lost. There are many ways to keep the pleasure going and keep the intimacy alive. 

Your First Time Isn’t Always Magical 

Thanks to pop culture, they have always portrayed the first time someone loses their V card as a magical experience. While there’s no doubt that the first time you have sex is magical, that’s not always the case with every single person on earth.

Sex is different from one person to the other, and the first time can be a very painful and joyless experience, especially if you don’t really know what you’re doing. Another misconception is that if it hurts, then it’s working. Sadly, no, if it hurts too much then something is clearly wrong and you should stop what you’re doing to avoid any damage to your genitals. Over time, sex becomes an enjoyable experience and soon enough you’ll forget about how awkward your first time was and see fireworks.

To this day, sex can remain a mystery; there are many things that no one tells you about sex growing up, and sex education could possibly use some revamping to provide anyone with the necessary knowledge. If you don’t go to the right sources, you’ll find that there’s a lot about sex that you still don’t know. Sex is beautiful, but it’s also one topic that requires anyone to become educated. 

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Scent of a romantic partner can improve your quality of sleep

New research accepted for publication in the journal Psychological Science suggests that the scent of a romantic partner can improve your quality of sleep. This is true regardless of whether or not you are consciously aware that the scent is even present.



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Forget counting sheep. If you really want a good night’s sleep, all you may need is your romantic partner’s favorite T-shirt wrapped around your pillow.

New research accepted for publication in the journal Psychological Science suggests that the scent of a romantic partner can improve your quality of sleep. This is true regardless of whether or not you are consciously aware that the scent is even present.

“A growing body of evidence has shown that close relationships are essential to our health and well being,” said Frances Chen, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, Vancouver, and co-author on the paper. “But far less is known about the role of scent in relationships and social support processes. The current study provides new evidence that the mere scent of a romantic partner improves sleep efficiency.”

Previous research has shown that romantic relationships and close physical contact can provide many physical and mental benefits, including aiding in a good night’s sleep. Other research has shown that scents can have profound and evocative effects on the brain. What has not yet been clearly demonstrated is a direct connection between the two.

Chen and graduate student Marlise Hofer set out to investigate this intersection and to understand how romance, scent, and sleep interact.

Chen and Hofer began their research by asking one member of a heterosexual couple in a long-term (three or more months) relationship to wear a plain cotton T-shirt for 24 hours. During this time, the wearer was to avoid typical scent-producing behaviors, like eating spicy food or doing vigorous exercise. They were also told to avoid perfume, cologne, and antiperspirants. The T-shirt was then hermetically sealed and frozen.

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Afterward, the second member of the couple was given two identical shirts, one previously worn by their partner and another that either had been previously worn by a stranger or was scent free.

When a participant used their partner’s worn, scent-bearing T-shirt as a pillowcase, they experienced an average of over nine additional minutes of sleep per night. This equates to more than one hour of additional sleep per week, achieved without spending any more time in bed. The increase was due to participants sleeping more efficiently, meaning they spent less time tossing and turning. Sleep efficiency was measured using a wrist-worn sleep monitor that tracked movement throughout the night.

Participants also gave self-reported measures of sleep quality each morning, which increased on nights they thought they were sleeping with their partner’s scent.

“The effect we observed in our study was similar in magnitude to that reported for melatonin supplements–a commonly used sleep aid. The findings suggest that the scent of our loved ones can affect our health in powerful ways,” noted Hofer.

This research suggests that simple strategies such as taking a partner’s scarf or shirt along when traveling may have measurable effects on our sleep. Future research might determine if the scent of a romantic partner has additional health benefits beyond the domains of stress and sleep.

“These findings reveal that–whether or not we are aware of it–a fascinating world of communication is happening right under our noses,” concludes Hofer.

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Same-sex wedding held in British Embassy Manila

British Ambassador Daniel Pruce officiated a same-sex wedding in the British embassy in Manila, marking not only Valentine’s Day but the 87th same-sex marriage conducted in the premises.



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British Ambassador Daniel Pruce officiated a same-sex wedding in the British embassy in Manila, marking not only Valentine’s Day but the 87th same-sex marriage conducted in the premises.

In a Facebook post, British Embassy Manila claimed: “Love is in the air! Congratulations to Mark and Richard who were married by Ambassador Daniel Pruce on #ValentinesDay. We wish you a lifetime of love and happiness.”

It is worth noting that while same-sex marriage is not outright banned by the Philippine Constitution, the country’s Family Code limits marriage as a sacrament between one man and one woman.

However, foreign embassies are given extraterritorial privileges under the Geneva Convention. These include immunity from intrusion, damage and disturbance by the host countries.

Same-sex marriage was legalized in Great Britain in 2014; and so the embassy said the UK “continues to champion the rights and equal treatment of all regardless of gender.”

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