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By denying there’s a problem, you enable gay, bi people’s addiction; ergo, you’re part of the problem

Drug pushing and using do not exist in a vacuum. Other factors impact it, including the denial of those around the drug pushers and users (like their families, friends and employers).

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So I got hold of the contact details of one of my partner’s parteemates (those he has sex with while using illegal drugs). Let’s call him Mikee (not his real name), a somewhat high-ranking employee in an IT company that has an office in Pasig City.

I really should be picking a fight with Mikee, right? This man has been continuously luring my partner with drugs, and then just dumps the body after two to three days of drug-induced fucking (all for free; he has the money to host the sessions). But then… I didn’t. Instead, I just sent him a message, asking – and warning – him to lay off people who want to stop using drugs. Using is his issue (he has to live with the repercussions); but making others take it, that’s a different story altogether.

Mikee saw the messages; technology made sure I know he saw the messages I sent him.

But Mikee also didn’t give me any answer/s.

But that was months ago, so I thought he at least “heard” the message.

And then two, maybe three weeks ago, Mikee resurfaced. It’s partee as usual for him.

And so I ended up engaging with “important” people in his life.

I chatted with a close “friend”. Let’s call him Nilo (not his real name), an organizer (orgynizer, if you will) of partees (heck, even my partner said it was this person who introduced drug use to him in the first place). You see him in Telegram, Romeo, et cetera; so it’s easy to “find” him, really, as he gathers people for (choose your preference/s) bareback sex, BDSM, drug-fueled sex, et cetera.

Nilo’s response was cold, to say the least; he was unwilling to talk to Mikee about the drug use, or even just to ask him to stop involving others. This is apparently a form of “friendship” among these addicts at least; keep each other hooked… and hook others along the way.

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I also chatted with Marvic (not his real name), Mikee’s brother, via Messenger. And he was bitchy, actually, so I can only assume he only wanted to choose to see the “good kuya” that Mikee may be to him. Others may be harmed by Mikee? That, apparently, is not his issue. So long as older brother’s happy (rhyming with partee).

I also chatted with a high-ranking person in the company Mikee worked for. No, no, no… NO names were shared (at least for now). Instead, just this general inquiry on what the company’s policy is regarding drug pushing and using; and if there’s such a policy existing, identify the due process.

That person promised to make the inquiries to the right channels within the company… and then basically disappeared. Yeah, yeah, yeah…I’ll follow-up soon enough, so this won’t be a dead end as far as this channel is concerned…

This is the thing with drug pushing and using, and drug addiction itself: None of these exist in a vacuum. Other – numerous – factors impact it. And for those around the drug pushers and users, it starts with denying there’s a problem, ignoring the problem. Because this is one sure way to enable gay and bisexual people’s addiction: pretend they’re not addicts who are harming not just themselves, but others, too.

And with this, yes… these people are part of the drug problem even sans their actual use of drugs.

So stop the blind support; do better by actually helping heal drug-fucked people.

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Frolic Lopez - a pen name, quite apparently - used to be (predominantly) sapiosexual (that is, he used to predominantly find intelligence sexually attractive/arousing). But then... life happened, and he discovered that he should be more 'trysexual', more open to possibilities to experience everything life can offer. He now writes - and shares - about everything life throws his way.


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