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Failed marriage hitting your friend hard? Here’s how you can help

It’s a sad statistic, but roughly one in three marriages end in divorce. Consequently, we all know somebody that will have to go through the heartache and hassle of a breakup at some stage. As a good friend, helping your friend during this difficult time is essential.

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It’s a sad statistic, but roughly one in three marriages end in divorce. Consequently, we all know somebody that will have to go through the heartache and hassle of a breakup at some stage. As a good friend, helping your friend during this difficult time is essential.

Divorce hits us all hard, but it can hit some harder than others. It’s particularly important to provide a supportive shoulder to those friends that are struggling. If you haven’t got the firsthand experience of going through the process, you might start to feel a little useless. However, there’s still plenty of things that you can do.

Here are some of the best ways to help your friend through the process and recovery. Make sure that you do. After all, they’d do the same for you if the roles were reversed.

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LET THEM MAINTAIN CONTROL

This point may sound a little counterproductive against everything that’s about to follow. However, you must let your friend stay in the driving seat. There are a lot of things you can do to support them. Ultimately, though, it’s their problem.

Offering advice is fine. But lecturing them isn’t an ideal solution. Your friend is only going to take your suggestions on board if they fit in with their existing views anyway. Essentially, being too active will only lead to frustration. The best thing you can do is listen.

You don’t want to get dragged into a slagging off match about their partner. This is especially true if your respective partners are friends, which is quite possible. Don’t be afraid to offer some support, but realize that they have to make the decisions. Besides, the professionals are better qualified to offer useful tips.

HELP GAIN LEGAL ADVICE

Money isn’t the most important element at a time like this. However, the financial aspects cannot be ignored either. Perhaps more crucially, dragging the divorce process out for longer than necessary can make it harder for your friend to move on. Therefore, helping them fight the inevitable battle should be top of the agenda.

If you have been through a divorce, then try to use those experiences in a positive manner. In truth, though, your input will only have a limited impact. To give your friend the best hope of reaching an agreeable conclusion, they need a representative that specializes in divorce. This is pivotal from a financial perspective but carries even greater importance if children are involved. Sourcing the best attorney has never been easier with the help of www.Lawyers.com. Not only will the right lawyer actively boost your friend’s case, but it should provide a boost in confidence too.

Many elements contribute to a productive divorce. But getting the legal aspects completed in a positive manner is easily one of the most important tasks. It’s in your friend’s best interests that this remains a priority.

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GET OUTSIDE

Going through a divorce is naturally a very sad time for anyone. Subsequently, the suffering party is likely to encounter stages of feeling self-pity. There’s nothing wrong with being down during such a difficult period. But it’s important to remember that life goes on.

Being locked away for weeks is going to help anyone. Your friend will find it hard to acclimatise to life without their former partner, and their home life can suddenly feel very lonely. The best thing you can do is make yourself available. Whether it’s going to watch your favorite sports team or attending events in the local area doesn’t matter. An active lifestyle will benefit your friend greatly.

Essentially, you want to show your friend that they still have plenty to be grateful for while life is still pretty special. Let’s face it; you’ll probably enjoy those additional activities too.

FIGHT RELATED ISSUES

Unfortunately, shutting themselves away from the world is just the start of those potential problems. It’s quite normal for people to act slightly less responsible during the initial stages after the marital breakup. As a friend, you can play an active role in embracing these ideas in a positive manner. But you must not let them go off the rails.

We all react differently to life-changing situations. Divorce can leave a person in a very vulnerable position. And this can leave them open to difficulties with alcohol, drugs, and other issues. Worryingly, they often won’t accept that there is a problem. If you’ve spotted signs that a potentially dangerous situation is arising, you need to act fast. Experts at www.ArcProject.org.uk can help fight back against those troubles.

Whether it’s prevention or recovery, it could be key to keeping your friend in a healthier state throughout this testing part of their life. Divorce is hard enough without bringing additional problems into the equation.

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INVEST IN A BETTER BODY

When you end a casual relationship, the period before feeling ready to date again is often quite short. However, the severity of a divorce means that it could take months (or even years) before your friend is ready to get back on the horse. Ultimately, it’s better to take more time than rush back into the dating game. But that doesn’t mean the divorcee can’t benefit from feeling more attractive.

Mentally, building a better body image will work wonders. The physical benefits of feeling fitter and healthier will allow your friend to enjoy other aspects of their life to the fullest. Quite frankly, that can be hugely influential during this period. Furthermore, the new hobby can keep them active while reducing the risk of the above issues.

Divorce can leave your friend feeling low. But focusing energies in a positive manner is a great way to respond while the end rewards can help them regain their health and happiness. From a selfish perspective, assisting your friend will have positive influences on your body too. What more incentive could you need?

BUILD A NEW HOME

Only one (or maybe neither) of the divorcing couple can keep the marital home. As such, there’s a good chance that your friend will suddenly be without a property. A home is one of the most integral assets in anybody’s life. Helping them find long-term accommodation is arguably the greatest support of all.

In the immediate future, you can offer the guest room or your sofa. On a more permanent basis, you can help them look for permanent accommodation. The divorce also means that they’ll need to start again with certain possessions. Giving them some of your unwanted goods can help them get back on their feet. If items aren’t in the best condition, a little upcycling can work wonders. Visit PopSugar.com for further inspiration. Your friend’s new home will have a unique glow in no time.

A new home will offer new foundations. This can be a key element of trying to draw a line under everything that has gone before. It won’t magically make the pain of a divorce disappear, but it will at least open a new chapter.

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REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES

In those very initial stages, a breakup is likely to encourage feelings of animosity and anger. Long-term, however, it’s important that your friend gains positive closure with the failed marriage. Maintaining those negative feelings will only make it harder for them to trust future partners.

Marriages end every single day, and there’s a whole host of potential reasons. Whether the couple just grew apart, or now hate each other doesn’t matter. The relationship was once filled with love, and your friend should remember that. This doesn’t mean that they have to miss it. Simply that they should appreciate the positive influences that a loving relationship can bring. If kids are involved, holding those feelings of hatred to the other parent is very unhealthy too.

Dwelling on past mistakes can only have negative impacts, and will make it harder to move on. It might not be on the agenda immediately. But, at some point, drawing a positive line under the relationship is key. Otherwise, the fallout of the divorce could plague their progress for years.

CREATE A NEW NORM

Ending a relationship changes a lot, but ending a marriage turns your world upside down completely. While focusing on those essential ideas like finance and a home are the immediate concerns, there are many more features to consider.

In many ways, it’s like starting a new life. As a good friend, you can be a consistent force to make it less daunting. However, you should encourage them to make positive life upgrades. The responsibilities of marriage may have stopped them from finding a new career path, or taking up a new hobby. This is their chance to follow those dreams. After all, building a happier life is surely the best response.

As a good friend, you should be available to offer support. Ultimately, you can’t be there 24/7. Encouraging them to find happiness within themselves is far more productive than playing an overly active role. Encourage them to stand on their own feet again, and your friend will be back to their best in no time.

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Loneliness in youth could impact mental health over the long term

Loneliness is associated with mental health problems, including depression and anxiety-potentially affecting them years later.

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The COVID-19 pandemic has necessitated widespread social isolation, affecting all ages of global society. A new rapid review in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (JAACAP), published by Elsevier, reports on the available evidence about children and young people specifically, stating that loneliness is associated with mental health problems, including depression and anxiety-potentially affecting them years later.

The review, which synthesizes over 60 pre-existing, peer-reviewed studies on topics spanning isolation, loneliness and mental health for young people aged between 4 and 21 years of age, found extensive evidence of an association between loneliness and an increased risk of mental health problems for children and young people.

“As school closures continue, indoor play facilities remain closed and at best, young people can meet outdoors in small groups only, chances are that many are lonely (and continue to be so over time),” said lead author, Maria Loades, DClinPsy, Senior Lecturer in Clinical Psychology at the University of Bath, UK.

“This rapid review of what is known about loneliness and its impact on mental health in children and young people found that loneliness is associated with both depression and anxiety. This occurs when studies measured both loneliness and mental health at the same point in time; when loneliness was measured separately; and when depression and anxiety were measured subsequently, up to 9 years later,” Dr. Loades added. “Of relevance to the COVID-19 context, we found some evidence that it is the duration of loneliness that is more strongly associated with later mental health problems.”

From the selected studies there was evidence that children and young people who are lonely might be as much as three times more likely to develop depression in the future, and that the impact of loneliness on mental health outcomes like depressive symptoms could last for years. There was also evidence that the duration of loneliness may be more important, than the intensity of loneliness, in increasing the risk of future depression among young people.

For many young people, loneliness will decrease as they re-establish social contacts and connections as lockdown eases (e.g., as they return to school or college). For some a sense of loneliness may persist as they struggle to resume social life, particularly for those who were more vulnerable to being socially isolated before lockdown.

“It’s key that children and young people are allowed to return to activities such as playing together, even if outdoors, as soon as possible, and that they are able to resume attending school, which gives them a structure for their day, and provides them with opportunities to see peers and to get support from adults outside of the nuclear family,” said Dr. Loades. Furthermore, she added “children need more in their strategy for easing lockdown. Alongside this, the government could target children’s wellbeing in public health messaging. And meanwhile, we should also continue to embrace technology as a way to keep in touch.”

So whilst we do what we can to mitigate the effects of loneliness and re-establish social connections, we also need to prepare for an increase in mental health problems, in part due to loneliness, and also due to the other unintended consequences of lockdown, such as a lack of structure, physical inactivity and social and/separation anxiety that might be triggered when resuming social interactions outside of the home.

There are several levels at which we can prepare for the heightened demand:

  • Take a universal approach to promoting wellbeing through public messaging, and by schools doing activities to promote wellbeing in children and young people as they resume normal activities.
  • Seek to identify those who are struggling with loneliness as early as possible and do so by targeted interventions to help them overcome their struggles. This may be through the provision of extra support in schools, helping them overcome anxieties about returning to school, or giving them an extra hand with reconnecting socially with peers.

For those who continue to struggle over time, and can’t get back to doing the things they normally do as a result of their struggles, we need to ensure that they are made aware that services are open, and can provide specialist help, and to make sure that they know how to access this help and are supported to do so.

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Trump-appointed judges void Florida bans on conversion therapy for children

Two south Florida laws that banned therapists from offering conversion therapy to children struggling with their sexual orientation or gender identity were declared as unconstitutional by a federal appeals court.

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Two south Florida laws that banned therapists from offering conversion therapy to children struggling with their sexual orientation or gender identity were declared as unconstitutional by a federal appeals court.

In the case – Otto et al v City of Boca Raton, Florida et al, 11th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals, No. 19-10604 – the 11th US Circuit Court of Appeals sided (in a 2-1 decision) with two therapists who said the laws in the city of Boca Raton and Palm Beach County violated their free speech rights.

American Republican President Donald Trump – the loser in the country’s latest presidential election, and who refuses to concede – appointed the two judges who supported conversion therapy.

According to Circuit Judge Britt Grant, the laws “allow speech that many find concerning – even dangerous,” but the First Amendment “does not allow communities to determine how their neighbors may be counseled about matters of sexual orientation or gender.”

The therapists in the case, Robert Otto and Julie Hamilton, said their clients had “sincerely held religious beliefs conflicting with homosexuality,” and they sought counseling to conform their identities and behaviors with those beliefs.

A study by the Williams Institute at UCLA School of Law noted that 20 American states and Washington, D.C. already ban licensed healthcare professionals from conducting conversion therapy on children. The practice – which aims to change people’s sexual orientations or gender identities – stigmatizes lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people, and is linked to depression, anxiety and suicide.

The American Psychiatric Association (APA) also opposes conversion therapy, since the practice often assumes that homosexuality is a mental disorder.

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Lesbian, gay, bisexual communities more at-risk for dementia – study

Social inequality makes less privileged groups, including sexual minorities, more prone to develop cognitive impairment. So making the society more just and more accepting of diverse sexuality may help prevent dementia and reduce related health care burden on society.

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Lesbian, gay and bisexual — or LGB — people are more vulnerable to one of the fastest-growing health concerns in the country: dementia, according to research from Michigan State University.

“Our study speaks to the unaddressed questions about whether members the LGB community are more likely to develop cognitive impairment at older ages and, if so, what factors contribute to their poorer cognitive health, ” said Ning Hsieh, an assistant professor of sociology at MSU and lead author of the study published in the journal, The Gerontologist.

“We knew that stress and depression are risk factors for many chronic health problems, including cognitive impairment, in later life. LGB people experience more stressful events and have higher rates of depression compared to their heterosexual counterparts,” she said.

Analyzing the elevated cognitive health risks among older members of the LGB community, the study was the first to use a national sample and screening tool to gauge cognitive health disparities between LGB and heterosexual older adults.

Hsieh and MSU colleagues Hui Liu, professor of sociology, and Wen-Hua Lai, a Ph.D. student of sociology — compared cognitive skills of 3,500 LGB and heterosexual adults using a screening tool and questionnaire that tests for six domains. Those areas included temporal orientation; language; visuospatial skills; executive function; attention, concentration and working memory; and short-term memory.

Social inequality makes less privileged groups, including sexual minorities, more prone to develop cognitive impairment. So making the society more just and more accepting of diverse sexuality may help prevent dementia and reduce related health care burden on society.

The researchers found that on average, older LGB adults were more likely to fall into categories for mild cognitive impairment or early dementia compared to heterosexual older adults. The team also tested for specific health and social factors — such as physical conditions, mental health conditions, living a healthy lifestyle and social connections — and the only factor related to cognitive differences for sexual minorities was depression.

“Our findings suggest that depression may be one of the important underlying factors leading to cognitive disadvantages for LGB people,” Hsieh said. “They may experience higher rates of depression than their heterosexual peers for many reasons, including not being accepted by parts of society, feeling ashamed of their sexual orientation or trying to hide their romantic relationships and being treated unfairly in school or at work.”

The researchers felt surprised that other factors — such as fewer social connections, drinking or smoking — didn’t have as great of an effect on LGB people’s cognitive function later in life. But, they also recognized the need for additional research to understand how the stressors sexual minorities experience earlier in life can lead to cognitive impairments as they age. Additionally, Hsieh said, they hope that the study’s findings shed light on the need for greater inclusivity for sexual minorities, as it can have an influence on their mental and cognitive well-being.

“Social inequality makes less privileged groups, including sexual minorities, more prone to develop cognitive impairment,” Hsieh said. “Making the society more just and more accepting of diverse sexuality may help prevent dementia and reduce related health care burden on society.”

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Smart secrets to save money

Here are smart secrets to save money in order to help you get started.

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We know that saving money is one of the most difficult things to do in life. This is because there is always something new to buy or something else to spend your money on. However, it is also very fundamental as it allows you to experience financial freedom.

In life, you need to do more than just get by. In fact, you should buy your dream house, buy your dream car, run a successful business, and more. However, this can only happen if you are able to save money. That means even if you win a mobile casinos jackpot, instead of going on holiday using that money, you should consider saving. 

Here are smart secrets to save money in order to help you get started.

Avoid Impulsive Spending

A lot of the times, people find themselves buying things that they actually do not need. As a result, you end up using money that you could have otherwise saved. Therefore, we suggest that before you go to buy groceries or anything that you need, you create a list of the things that you intend to buy. When you get to the shops, it’s very important that you overcome all temptation and only stick to your list. 

At the same time, we also suggest that you do not carry any extra money or cards. Doing that will stop you from buying anything else that is not on your list.

Shop Smart

You will need to make sure that you learn to shop and play real money casino games smart . This will help you to save a lot of money in the long run. For those that do not know, smart shopping involves avoiding buying things at one shop or the first shop that you come across. Instead, what you need to do is make sure that you compare prices around, even if you are shopping online. After comparing prices, ensure that you buy from the cheapest retailer.

Buy in Bulk

Buying groceries almost on a daily basis is not advisable. What you should do in make sure that you buy those goods with long shelf life in bulk. That way, the goods are cheaper, and you do not have to fork out money for the same things constantly.

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Money saving apps that you can try

If you are tired of trying to save money and failing to, here are some apps that can help you save some money.

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Saving money is very important for any person or business. Money that you save can be transformed into emergency funds, it is not good for a person to not have money kept in case of an emergency.

If you are tired of trying to save money and failing to, here are some apps that can help you save some money.

Chime

It is a mobile banking app that is compatible with Android and iOS. You can instantly see transactions and track spending ones. You will also have a spending account as well as a debit card that is safe because it is FDIC-insured and it can be used for online slots real money. In addition to all that you will also have an automatic savings account. 10% of every paycheck is au0tomatically deposited in the savings account. If your money is in a savings account, you will not be tempted to spend it.

Digit

This app does all the thinking, it looks at your income and expenditures. After that, it goes on to calculate what you may save. It then puts the money that you can save in an FDIC-insured Digit account.

Clarity Money

This app tells you how you can spend money wisely and how money can be wasted. The app also helps you by cancelling subscriptions that you are not using like casino apps, you can always browse on brand new casino sites no need for case . And those 5t6hat you do not need. Also, it helps you save by negotiating your bills down to lower rates. The app tracks how you spend in order to ensure that you stay on budget. It will also recommend credit cards for you, it does so according to your lifestyle. With this app, you can also have a savings account.

Qapital

Qapital will educate you on the idea of saving money. It can help you understand the idea of saving a little in order to achieve a larger goal.

Mint

This app helps you maintain your bills. It makes sure you pay your bills on time in order to avoid losing unnecessary money.

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The best business schools in the world right now

Here are the best business schools that you should attend to get the best results.

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You will need to have that business mind in order to make the right investments with your real money winnings. And going to a business school is one of the best decisions that you can ever make for yourself and your business career. 

Therefore, here are the best business schools that you should attend to get the best results.

HEC Paris

This business school has been in existence since 1881 therefore, it is the best option that you can pick for your classes. The school is located in Jouy-en-Josas in France. The school comes with a lot of specialized business programs that you can partake in at the same time have mobile gambling as your hobby. You can also get to do your Masters and PHD programs as well.

London Business School

The business school was founded back in 1964 and is also the constituent college of the federal University of London. And, the school’s motto is that it should have, “a profound impact on the way the world does business.” The business school is recognized all over the world as one of the best providers of knowledge in the business world.

INSEAD

This school is located in different parts of the world. You can choose to have your degree or diploma from Asia, Europe, North America and the Middle East. And, the name of the school is an abbreviation of the name, Institute  European administration des Affairs. Currently, the school only has 1 410 students focusing on different aspects of the world of business.

Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania

Wharton is a part of the University of Pennsylvania and is also a part of the Ivy League University in Philadelphia. The school takes its name from Joseph Warton after he made a donation to help establish the school.  Also, it is one of the oldest business schools in the world after its inception in 1881. Therefore, you will be getting the best while you playing jeu de roulette en ligne and the most experienced knowledge in the world of business.

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