“If you get invited to your first orgy, don’t just show up nude.
That’s a common mistake.
You have to let nudity ‘happen.’”
JACK HANDEY
American Humorist
I had to attend THAT gathering – I haven’t for quite a while now; and, more importantly for me, the organizer said THIS guy I’ve been wanting to hook up with (but can’t seem to) is going to be there, GUARANTEED. So I went.
Oh, yes, we’re talking about group sex, a.k.a. (if not actually better known as) orgy, that gathering/coming together of hot-blooded people (in this case, we focus on men) to, obviously, cum (let’s not play with words anymore). The working words: gathering to cum – so you know what to expect, and/or give when there.
As soon as I arrived, I did the usual stuff (usual in the context, anyway), e.g. get a rubbish bag (turned clothes bag), strip to my undies (putting the clothes in the bag), hand the bag over to the host (acting as caretaker), and then head into the action (no wasting of time needed). But while walking to join some mingling was when I noticed four, five young guys apprehensive to take their clothes off, actually whispering (quite loudly, too) to each other if they should stay (therefore strip) or, no, they might as well leave (and keep their clothes on). More than anything, that occurrence made me realize that, yes, there is a need to provide some sort of guides (if not guidelines) to those looking at joining orgies – this way, the experience is made good for everyone.
Know what you are getting yourself into – e.g. some orgies, like the one I went to, require participants to be at least in their undies (for better access, perhaps), and knowing this “rule” before actually joining this kind of gathering is important as it will prepare you for what’s there. Just because many like surprises, doesn’t mean everybody does. Of course, there are those that let you keep your clothes, and those wanting for you to be completely naked, or those looking for bug chasers, or whatever; the point is, know beforehand what will be in store for you in the gathering you are to join – if you like it, go; if not, don’t, it really is THAT simple.
Closely related to the point above, check specifics of expectations – e.g. if you, when invited, said you’re a top, be a top; else, you’ll ruin the coupling expected to happen that night (annoying to a host, believe me), which will make you unlikely to be invited again next time around.
Thus, yet again related to the above (this time on knowing the specifics), state your limitations from the very beginning. If/when your limitations can not be respected by attending the gathering, forget going. If you do, well, then, when those limitations are breached, it is no one else’s fault but your own.
In a sex group, you are a walking dick – or a gaping hole, whichever role you’re taking/playing. Meaning, especially in groups with pre-selected participants, anybody can just kneel in front of you to give you a head job; and, while you are sprawling there with your ass exposed, anybody can just stick their dicks up you.
Can you say no, at all? It depends. As earlier stated, in pre-selected groups, saying no isn’t always an option, what with the roles to be played already assigned (thus the specifics in requirements, e.g. “We need one more bottom for three tops,” as advertised in Guys4Men.com). In open orgies, though, saying no is possible – and should be so, too. Just because you want group sex doesn’t mean you’d do it with just about everybody as long as they have dicks. Your taste can still be insisted. The trick is to say it nicely, e.g. “I need to rest a bit, I already came thrice” or “My ass is still sore” or “I need to shit, man!”
Be aware of everything, e.g. don’t drink too much so that you can’t decide anymore, especially in practicing safer sex, et cetera (alcohol makes stupid people of us all, making us take risks we shouldn’t take AT ALL); and don’t take (too many) drugs you pass out so everybody can fuck you senseless while taping you (this has happened in real life, too). Keeping your head (the one up there) means keeping control over… everything.
Be safe. Bring your own supplies. And that’s even when the organizers said (during the inviting) that they have supplies. Just bring your own supplies. No discussions needed here. Be safe. Bring your own supplies.
Redundant, yes; but very, very important.
If all things fails, leave.
There you have the basics of going to an orgy.
Now, did the newbies stay? Only one of them left, complaining about how he wasn’t told he had to remove his clothes. The others said that THAT information was irrelevant – “The experience to be had here may be well worth it,” one of them I overheard saying.
That, of course, is the spirit.
And did I finally have that one I have been eyeing for in ages? Yes. Finally. Let’s just say I now know he isn’t my type – the appeal for me was purely physical, and there, sans his clothes, he wasn’t THAT impressive. And then there’s the performance, and the…
Never mind.
The thing is, I wouldn’t have known any of these had I not dropped by that orgy.
So do I recommend orgies?
That’s a personal decision. Yet again, for as long as you know what you are getting yourself into.
Now go enjoy being a part of the herd.
