We were supposed to head out of town for the Holy Week. We talked about this days ago. Spend time together discovering places we have yet to check together. Create new memories. Twogether (cringey sa schmaltz, oo, LOL).
But then – a few days before Holy Week – he said he changed his mind; that he’d rather just stay in Metro Manila. For me not to bother anymore with the hotel reservations, coming up with itinerary, and so on.
That was an okay decision… at least on the surface. We can just drive around. Or stay home. Any place should be okay, right? As long as we’re together.
And then came the long weekend, and hours before I was supposed to pick Tar from work, he messaged: He’s cutting work, and he’s heading home.
But he’s not home.
He’s with his partee-mates.
And this is something every person in a relationship with someone who partees (or those who use drugs while having sex with others): that long weekends will be spent partee-ing. If this means not being with people who love them (and they may love), so be it. Because for them, long weekends = more time to be high while fucking senseless for longer. Love can’t compete with that.
I “get” it naman. If we all can extend drinking, clubbing, partying, beachgoing, vacationing, and so on for as long as possible, we’d all go for that. For partee-goers, this is the time they can wantonly partee for days… then just return to their “normal” lives after. Same-same… except for the “item” of addiction.
And yet the “dumping” doesn’t stop hurting, yes. This knowing that you’ll always come second. Not to the partee-mates, abusive people who are means to an end, but to the addiction. Alas, it’s not called addiction for nothing, no?
He’ll be back. In a day or two or three.
And I… like others like me… bear.
Until the next long weekend comes. When he may spend the days with me… or, as is usual, some partee-mate.
The lesson remains, though, particularly for those who choose to be in a relationship with a partee-goer: long weekends will be spent partee-ing. Put up (even with the pain) or lose the partee-going lover.
